Inspiring a Revolution in your Evolution
To inspire, empower, educate, advocate, support, and offer a community where survivors of domestic abuse are supported by other survivors. A place to call home, with guidance to create a roadmap forward to a healthy and abundant life, full of hope for a better tomorrow.
Rebel Thriver is a registered 501c3, Not-for-Profit Organization
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continue our mission to support survivors of Domestic Violence.
Ten years ago Rebel Thriver launched with a simple blog post, and since then we have grown into vibrant community. Today we are asking you to donate $10 for every year that we have been supporting survivors of domestic violence.
To celebrate our 10th Anniversary we have created a few collector pieces for you. Rebel Thriver is a registered 501(c)3, and all proceeds from the sale of these items will go directly back into our organization which supports survivors of domestic violence. Show some pride for your tribe by sporting this limited edition collection.
Join Our Group Coaching Program!
Our new coaching program, Bloom Where You Are Planted, is available now online in our Village. We take a deep dive into 8 strategic key areas of your life. Each of these areas are building block of your personal foundation. Often times we lose our sense of self and any foundation that we may have had, as a result of domestic abuse. It’s hard to be rooted and to plan your future when your foundation isn’t strong.
This program is comprised of 2 Parts, and is self paced. The cost is $15, and you can sign up in the COURSES section of the main menu.
*if for any reason you want to participate but cannot afford the tuition please email me at email@example.com and let me know. We will provide you with a waiver.
* If you would like to enable someone else to join, you can pay it forward by “sponsoring” another person. This can be done simply by donating to Rebel Thriver and letting us know.
🦋 Please remember that Rebel Thriver is a Not-for-Profit Org. it is through donations & sales from our store that we are able to continue bringing you exclusive content & a SAFE online community.
🦋 The platform is free until January when we will start with a monthly membership fee of $3 USD a month to help fund our outreach for domestic violence survivors & keep the org. afloat.
It’s long been our dream to have this for our amazing Tribe, a place of our very own. A place to feel SAFE. We own all the content & have complete oversight. I ask you to please trust me on this new adventure & I do hope to see you there!
Sign up today & create your profile. This platform feels a bit like Facebook, but it’s SO much better! There we have exclusive content that you will not find anywhere else, as well as all of our groups. It’s truly DYNAMIC & we have so much room to grow! The platform also is home to the Thriver’s Ed. Dept, which is home to our courses, coaching & workshops.⠀
One of the things that I like the most is the community chat feature that allows everyone on the platform to join in. Please give it a spin! Join via your computer OR there is even an APP for your phone! Holla when you arrive because that is where you can find your tribe!
Ps. Ella’s office hours there are Wednesday’s from 3-4 pm EST
To sign up via a computer: rebelthrivertribe.com⠀
To download the App:
1. Go to the App store on your phone
2. Download the Mighty Networks App
3. Search for Rebel Thriver
4. Create your account and you are in!
From Our Founder
I, too, am a survivor of domestic violence, and it was my own experience that drove me to create Rebel Thriver. It was my mission to try to fill the void for support that I found after I left my abusive marriage. Our vision is to implement sustainable programs that will help survivors of abuse reclaim their lives. We strive to impact lasting change by advocating for new legislation and shining a light in the darkness. Your donation means everything to us and the women that we are able to help. Thank you for helping us help others.
Hand in Hand, is our 2022 Fundraising Campaign. As a non-profit, we depend on your support. Your donations coupled with the proceeds from all sales in our store go directly back into the development of sustainable programs to benefit our community. This includes workshops, retreats, mentoring, advocacy, and education. As the world continues to be affected by Covid-19 we have adapting to bring our programs to you virtually.
Can we count on you to help us continue the work that is so desperately needed in our society today? We help women heal and build roadmaps forward to better tomorrows. We simply cannot sustain this level of care and community outreach without your support.
‘Hand in Hand,’ is a phrase that we often use in our goodnight posts. We want you to know that no matter what you may be going through you are not alone. We have adopted a quote by Ram Dass, “We are all just walking each other home,” as a tagline for our tribe. No matter where you are, no matter how far, there is always a hand here for you to hold.
We Care. We Understand. We are Making a Difference.
Our Four Pillars for Progress
It is our goal to advocate for survivors of DV whenever the opportunity opens up. We help survivors connect to necessary help in their geographical area and we support legislation that benefits survivors. Right now we are working to help get the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) signed back into Law. This is imperative for all survivors.
Leading by example is one of the pillars of our existence. We believe that survivors who have found their voice and have progressed on their healing journey are the best role models for other victims and survivors of DV. Knowing that others have gotten out and reclaimed their lives is proof postive that if someone else can do it then so can they. It is a powerful example of HOPE that is essential.
Community is at the heart of Rebel Thriver. We are an active community with large followings on both Instagram and Facebook. In addition, we have a page on Facebook geared to Parents and children called, Rebel Thriver Jr. Most notably, we just launched our own community membership platform where we offer groups, classes, mentoring, coaching, and connection all in a private and safe setting, which is paramount for us.
In order smash the cultural stigma that surrounds DV, education is key. Our aim is to educate the general public about what DV is and how it may appear in their lives. We also work tirelessly to help survivors understand their own experiences, and give them the much needed tools to reconnect to themselves so that they can reclaim their lives and learn to thrive. Our First Foundation course, Understanding Domestic Violence, is available to everyone in our Thriver’s Ed Department on our new platform .
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What We are Watching on HBO
HBO Max has given an eight-episode order to Atlas of the Heart, an unscripted series from Dr. Brené Brown, based on her latest book Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience.
In the series, Brown takes viewers on an interactive journey through the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human. Anguish, wonder, awe, anxiety, envy, jealousy, resentment, compassion, empathy, disappointment, regret, and overwhelm are among the topics that will be examined. Grounded in more than two decades of research, Brown brings together powerful storytelling, pop culture references and researchers to share the language, tools and framework for meaningful connection.
What We are Watching on NETFLIX
This is an extraordinary 3 part series about a 17 year old boy named Anthony Templet. Anthony killed his father one night and the documentary begins from the legal perspective. This is an inside look at domestic violence and how it not only affects the partners, but the children in the house. Anthony lived an isolated, tortured, and abused life at the hands of his father. He was doubted because of his emotional reaction to his own crime. As a trauma informed practitioner I knew that Anthony was a victim of severe abuse. This is another perspective of how DV can manifest in a home and the damage that it can cause. This is also about the abuse that Anthony’s mother has endured as a result of his father.
This does come with a TRIGGER warning due to violence and content, but I think it is really worth watching and sharing. The more we educate society for what to look for and how to react or report things that don’t look right the better we will be as a society. Anthony, like many of us have been failed by our legal system, but my hope is that he will find a way to a future that he deserves and that he gets the help that he very much needs to begin healing so he can avoid the cycle of violence that we see passed down from one generation to another far too often.
Survivors of domestic violence don’t have many options when it comes to viewing TV shows or movies that realistically portray a little of what we have endured in real life. Maid, is a new show on NETFLIX that serves to address just this by holding up a mirror to victims and survivors, and by shining a light on DV.
This mini series is based on Stephanie Land’s 2019 memoir,
Maid: Hard Work, Low Pay, and a Mother’s Will to Survive.
Maid is the story of Alex, a young woman who, in the opening scene, wakes up in the middle of the night, sneaks out of bed where her husband Sean is sleeping, and carries their 2-year-old daughter, Maddie, to the car, preparing to drive off. We don’t know where she’s headed, and neither does she.
Is this triggering for survivors? I would say yes to a degree. Alex’s story isn’t a violent one, but rather the story of a single moms struggle to keep it together, and raise her daughter in a safe space.
I recommend this 10 part series because it does give a window into the struggle that so many survivors experience. It’s hard navigating the time after you leave a DV situation; finding safe housing, jobs, help from social services, and navigating the judicial system is tricky, and there is no manual.
Alex really needed Rebel Thriver to support her as she worked to find her footing, and start on the path of healing.
On a personal note: My divorce from my abusive ex-husband cost over 80K. In the end, after a landmark DV court case, my attorney’s said to me, “We are sorry, but the law has failed you. If you see him coming, grab the kids, jump in the car, and get out of there.” It really isn’t as easy as some people think, which is why we work so tirelessly to educate. Every time I hear someone ask, “Why didn’t she just leave?” I get so frustrated. Education is needed for ignorance to disappear.
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Domestic Violence Statistics:
- On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.
- 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc.
- 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. This includes a range of behaviors (e.g. slapping, shoving, pushing) and in some cases might not be considered “domestic violence.”
- 1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner.
- 1 in 10 women have been raped by an intimate partner. Data is unavailable on male victims.
- 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
- 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.
- On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
- The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
- Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.
- Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
- 19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.
- Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.
- Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.
Statistics from The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV).
Looking for a Practitioner?
Are you looking for a therapist who knows how to work with trauma? This search tool is from Psychology Today’s website and can help you find a trauma therapist in your area. (USA only)
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